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Appendix
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Basic
Principles of Peacemaking
(from
The Peacemaker,
By Ken Sande)
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A. The Four G’s
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A. Glorify God
B. Get the log out of your own eye
C. Go and show your brother/sister his/her fault
D. Go and be reconciled
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B. Three Opportunities Provided by conflict
(1 Cor. 10:31-11:1; Matt. 25:21)
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- Glorifying God
- Serving Others
- Growing to be like Christ
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C. Seven A's of Confessing Your Own Faults
(Prov. 23:13, Matt. 7:3-5)
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- Address everyone involved
- Avoid "if's," "but's" and
"maybe's"
- Admit specifically
- Apologize
- Accept the consequences
- Alter your behavior
- Ask for forgiveness
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D.
Five Steps for Dealing with an Offense When You Are Sinned Against
(Prov. 19:11; Mat. 5:23-24;18:15-20)
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- Overlook minor offenses
- Talk in private
- When necessary, take one or tow other with you
- Tell it to the elders if the offender will not listen
- Treat him as an unbeliever
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E. The Four Promises to Make When You Forgive
(I Cor. 13:5; Eph. 4:32)
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- I will not dwell on this incident
- I will not bring up this incident in a way to use it against you
- I will not talk to other about this incident
- I will not allow this incident to stand between us or hinder our
relationship
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F. The “P-A-U-S-E” Principles of Negotiating
(Phil. 2:3-4; Eccl. 9:16)
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Prepare
Affirm
relationships
Understand
the parties and interests involved
Search
for creative solutions
Evaluate
options objectively and reasonably
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